Overbooking

Lately I have been thinking about the concept of time, and how we never seem to have enough of it. This could be the result of simply over-committing ourselves to life’s everyday motions. Alternatively, agreeing to participate in something that we know will result in some other task being pushed back. It is not enough to just have a good job anymore – we now have to have a good job, successful relationship and a nice home with plenty of friends to remind us of how successful we are. However, at the end of the day, we have to stop and think about what this is inevitably doing to our mental state. For instance, I know a guy that stays to busy he can’t even set up a dinner date with friends a week in advance because he stays so over worked and stressed. True, he does love his job, but we all do in the beginning, right? This is also evidence that being so overbooked can often times lead others to question our reliability as I have found myself questioning this man’s several times. He is not a bad person because of this; he just may have some issues with both his professional and personal lives in the years to come.

There have even been instances in which I myself have fallen victim to overbooking. It has always been work related, too. Friends will inform me something is going on the day its happening and it most always coincides with a closing shift. The urge to make up an excuse to get off work early and join them is always the first thought to enter my mind, but that would be wrong on more levels than one so thus, it has never transpired. I have also found myself a second hand victim of being overbooked. The men I have dated, friends I have had, and still have, often times find themselves too busy to even grab a quick bite due to Pilate’s classes at the gym, presentations at work and even veterinary appointments. I know what you are thinking, these people are making these things up in an effort to not hang out with me, but that is not the case. I have been so bored at times that I have actually accompanied friends on such errands as these and they do in fact, hold truth to them.

In any event, we mustn’t forget that time is something that we can never get back once we’ve lost it. Days even years that have passed us by are lost to us now. Life should be about memories not seeing how many hours you can work in one week. I am not discouraging those of you that have strong work ethics, just humor me an take a day or two and spend it with a friend of family member that you have been wanting to get together with for a while. Believe me when I say that it will beat a day at the office.

Long distance

Whether you have thought about it or not, at some point in your life the topic of conducting a long distance relationship will emerge. I myself have always frowned on the idea thinking that it would never work. Because no matter whom you decide to date, they will eventually find something closer to home and leave you all by yourself. However, this is not always the case and can actually be a useless fear all together. Assuming of course that the person you are with is a trustworthy individual and is not known for cheating. Moreover, while my experience with long distance dating is very new, I have already learned much.

First, you must have an immense amount of patience. Not everything will fall together all at once. You have to give some things time and trust that if it is meant to be then it will work out. Trust also falls hand in hand with patience, as you need to be able to trust someone in a city in which you do not live so that you do not drive yourself crazy!

Also, realize that whomever you have a relationship, even someone that lives closer that 300 miles away, has a life of his or her own and does not always include you. Especially in the early stages of the relationship. They have their own friends, job, and priorities. So do not get aggravated when you do not hear back from then immediately after you send a text message. I have had to learn this one myself as I am the type of person who devotes every thought to how something will affect both me and the other person. But that’s a lesson I need to learn – think about myself more.

The best thing about being with someone who doesn’t live in the same zip code as you is the feeling you get in the pit of your stomach when you know you’re going to see them. A two, three or even a four hour drive can seem like an eternity when you’re on your way to visit with them. But in my opinion, that’s what makes it all worth while. Having said that, I will say that long distance relationships are hard and take an eye opening amount of work. But if you and the other person are committed, then you are in for much happiness and partnership.