It was recently brought to my attention that an old flame of mine recently became single. We’ll call him “David”. And this did not come as a huge shock to me – as he is a notorious cheater/boozer. He cheated on me two years ago with the guy that has now apparently dumped him. This makes me very happy. And not because I’m still bitter about being cheated on … well that might have something to do with it. The reason I find myself happy that this happened to him is because I love it when karma finds someone who absolutely deserves to be bit in the ass. But this is how I feel about anyone who has something of this nature coming to them.
After I heard of David’s recent streak of awful luck and I felt that evil grin stretch across my face I realized that I hadn’t completely forgiven him for what had transpired between us only a few years earlier. You have to understand, this was the first man I had a serious relationship with so every word that came out of his mouth might as well of been lined with gold, because I believed every word. He lied to me when I thought he was telling me the truth, and when the road started to get a little bit rocky between us he decided to take cover inside the warmth of someone else’s trousers. As this was the first time this particular situation happened to me, it has taken me a long time to fully get passed it. I hate any situation that makes me look and feel like an idiot. This occurs more than I’d prefer it to, but what can you do? When I ended up discovering David’s indiscretions one my own, I vowed I would never speak to him again. But to be fair, I let him give me his side of the story because at that point I was eager to hear how he’d distort the truth. And boy did he – he claimed that he cheated because he was so stressed from our relationship. His last statement confused me, as I can’t understand how screwing someone else is validated by a rough patch in a relationship. And that’s when I realized then and there that this was only a relationship not a partnership in which we were both equals and even more – being held to the same standards such as monogamy. So I decided that being with him was no longer what I felt I deserved and so I ended things. He tried, as all single celled organisms do, begging me to work things out with him. He then expressed that he felt this would be the best interest for us both, as long as he could continue to sleep with his trick on the side. WHAT? Are you kidding? I hung up the phone and I haven’t spoken to him in almost 3 years now.
But the whole reason I explained this was so you could grasp an understanding to where I’m coming from when I say I still harbor ill feelings towards David. Who wouldn’t? Now I know it’s not the Christian thing to do but let’s face it – if we were all devout Christians then we wouldn’t need church every Sunday to set us straight. I don’t want David to suffer an ill fate or lose a limb. I suppose that hearing of his ill fortune makes me happy because he now knows how I felt not too long ago when he left me alone and in the dark. Is the quote “Can you ever really forgive if you can’t forget?” true? I believe it is. Has what he did effected my relationships that have taken place after him – no. The only relationship it has ever affected was the one that transpired between him and me. I feel as though I’m a stronger and wiser person for what I was forced to endure with him. It taught me what I am not willing to tolerate when in a relationship. The easiest way to move past this I have found is simply accepting him for the person he is and leaving it at that. And at the end of the day, no matter what you do to someone or how badly you treat them – karma will always find you. Believe that.
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