Misunderstandings

One of the things I truly do not understand is the communication methods of younger gay men. And by this, I mean several things. It ranges from just how the interact with one another with not speaking when they see an old flame in public. Certainly, I cannot be the only one who has pondered this throughout history. Yes, I have found myself both a victim and a culprit in all scenarios but who hasn’t? I simply wish to understand why we do what we do … when we do it. Confusing? You haven’t read anything yet.

You are a homosexual; you meet someone and start seeing him or her on a regular basis. Things seem promising and then; just 4 weeks into your relationship something causes your joining to go sour. You talk shit about this person to other people and it makes you feel better. Finally, when you see them in public, whether it be at the grocery store or a movie premiere, you act as if you have never seen them before. Or worse – you act awkward and casually stare at them whenever you think they are not looking. This does happen to the heterosexual community as well but in my research, I have found that it occurs more with homosexuals. This can be solely based on the inexperience with handling difficult situations in that particular person’s life. In some cases, this takes place when one or both parties hate confrontations. I fall into this category.

Simply acknowledging the elephant in the room would be the best solution because just imagine how much thinner the air would be if this took place as often as it should. I have often felt before that I could do a pull up on all the tension in the air when I see an old lover. This is something we all need to work on. Post haste.

How some gays communicate with one another is a fascinating subject and often times even better to observe. And not just any gays – really feminine ones. The ones that scream out “Heyyy Girrrllll!” when they run into a female or occasionally even a male companion this is how they chose to greet them. Unacceptable. I have never understood this and feel as though I never will. I am not saying this behavior is wrong, just odd. Why is it a fraction of gay men act more like a woman than one of the Kardashians do? I have encountered my fair share of feminine gay men and have often times found it rather amusing to watch them interact with the general public as, almost always, they end up making huge fools of themselves. Is it people like this that cause the gay community to catch so much crap for being gay in the first place. After all, being gay should be just like being straight – you shouldn’t wear it on your sleeve and act in a way that informs everyone of your orientation. Until we can figure out how to take the more flamboyant types of this sexual orientation a little easier, I suggest we all attempt to raise our tolerance levels for the time being. Or just stay indoors and keep the TV tuned to the History channel.