Myths

Over the years, I think I’ve managed to learn a thing or two about relationships. Being a part of one that works does actually help to put all the bad ones in retrospect. I spent most of my adolescent life trying to find and keep a boyfriend when really; I needed to learn to be content with myself first. But I wanted to dispel a few myths about relationships whether they are straight or gay. Myths, that when left unexplained, can be the crutch that both parties lean on when they find themselves in a stalemate with their relationship.

Age means nothing. True, sometimes you can encounter differences when seeing someone older or younger than yourself. But that doesn’t mean that you don’t have anything in common. After all, one of the whole reasons we want to be in a relationship is so we can learn new things about someone and find things to like together. I’ve had someone tell me before that our age was the reason we kept disagreeing on certain things or why we seemed to be missing the boat when it came to important issues such as sex, spending time together and moving forward with our relationship in general. But at the end of the day it comes down to this – you’re only as old as you feel. Simply expressing to your partner, or hell anyone for that matter, is just a way to cushion your friends feelings should you chose to not to participate in something. It really aggravates me when people use their age as an excuse for anything. Because you’re 30 you should what, want to be settled down and have a family right? In most cases this is true but for some; completely inaccurate. This is how I know the “age” excuse is nothing but pure crap.

Not acting your age can go hand in hand with the age topic, but more often than not, it has to with your personality rather than how many years you’ve been alive. For instance, I love being active. I love being outside hiking, working out or just having a good time with friends. I also like to stay up until about 11 o’clock at night or until I find myself getting sleepy. Why? Because I have way too much energy all the time. This bothers my partner as you can imagine, because a few nights out of the week I’m watching TV as he’s trying to get some shut-eye. Even though I keep the volume low, he still has trouble dozing off. At one time, I wished that he could have more energy to watch TV with me but realized soon after that he works very hard and is exhausted at night. And thus, I have limited my bedtime TV watching to the bare minimum to be polite.

I realize that everyone is different and that at times, but the next time you find yourself not committing to a dinner with friends, or an evening with your partner, I want you to stop and think if your resistance from attending is simply because you’re tired or because you simply don’t want to go. Which ever you land on, be sure to express. No one likes a liar.