A few weeks ago, one of my closest friends met a guy. And not just any guy – an amazing guy. He is chivalrous, sweet and cares about her opinions. Which is always important in any relationship. Ever since they met they have spent an alarming amount of time together and it made me worry. But what I’ve come to ask myself is why am I worrying about this? I decided to go over all the usual factors.
Despite everything I’ve learned about being in a relationship and being happy, I can be a bit selfish. I don’t want her to be in a relationship with someone because I’m afraid it will mean that she will not be able to spend as much time with me. I’m afraid it will cause us to lose our bond and not be as close since she is spending so much time with another person. I know, it’s very selfish of me. But I can’t help the way I think. And it is wrong. Especially since she has never acted this way to me about anything, at least nothing pertaining to relationships.
And then I realized, who am I to not be happy for one of my friends. She has found something that is a positive influence in her life and makes her feel good. The truth is, sometimes the hardest thing in life is being happy for someone else. Especially when you yourself aren’t entirely happy with everything in your life. But what you realize is this person, who’s relationship you are devaluing, has never done that to you. You owe her or him the same respect. Because at the end of the day – they are your friend and that’s what friends do and that's what they would do for you.
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